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well as some of you know I've been with my guy for ages... we're pretty close and everyone knows how serious we are about each other..

either way... i noticed something lately, that i know happened all along, i just never paid mind to it.

when we're at his parent's house, he is not really affectionate... like he's nice and all... but he barely ever holds my hand or has his arm around me when his parents are there... it's weird... im thinking the only explanation is that they're a lil too religious and maybe showing affection is wrong?... but seriously now.. it's been this long, why try and hide it?

let me know if this happens with u.. if i should talk to him about it or if im overreacting.. im a lil lost with this, cos i cant believe it took me this long to see it. I dont want to think too much into it, so i need ur help. Especially guys.. do u do this or not? I mean I dont want to make 9out in front of them.. but u know...
 
Does his parents like you? Sometimes, men are funny and if his parents don't like you, he won't show affection in front of them. Or perhaps he has told them at one point in the beginning of your relationship that it's not that serious between you two.

Now, maybe he just has that much respect for his parents where he CAN'T show you affection in front of them.

OR, he could be that SHY in front of them.

I'm just throwing things in the air okay? I don't know.

But then again, why don't you just ask him? I think you should speak on it openly and let him know that it hurts you.
 
hmm... i hear what u say... but if i talk to him, i dont want to make him feel uncomforatble and do it cos i told him it bothers me, u know what i mean?... i hope its nothing and its just him having the respect or him being shy... and his parents do know how serious it is, they bug us about getting married...

so yeah hehe... i dunno what to think, it happened at new year's dinner, so i got reminded and now im asking u for help
 
So therefore, if his parents are waiting for marriage, then I really think it's the RESPECT. 😛

Why don't you just one day touch his hand in front of his parents like a soft massage or perhaps give him a little hug all during the right time. You will know when to act on this. 😉
 
hmm... good idea.. maybe i will... im just afraid to make him uncomfortable so i just sit back and wait for him.. but yeah u got a point, thank u mama 🙂
 
well sxy it could be like this...

1- it could be that hes really shy in front of his parents and doesnt have the confidence to show any kind of affection towards u maybe bcuz of what his mom might say, u should know how moms are with their sons as for the father they stay quiet and let the mother handle the situation now as for my case i'll be all over her if i love my girl and been with her as long u been with ur bf there wouldnt be no shame in my game nahmean? :tounge

2- now if it was the other way around where it was the guy being at his girls house then hell yeah there wouldnt be too much affection going on cuz of the respect the bf would have towards the mother i'll be too shy and afraid of doing that well thats just me if i were alone with her it be different and another thing u didnt say either if hes like that too in ur house in front of ur parents u know?

3- u say it took u that long to notice huh well how long must u wait for him to give u an answer? girl u better open ur mouth and ask him what the hell is going on? cuz if hes embarass and ashame to do this in front of parents does he also do this in public places too? u know this is somethin to think about and ur not overreacting i would feel the same also if i was in this situation too

so i think u need to sit down with him and ask him str8 up u love me or what? and just hope he doesnt give u the wrong answers by sayin hes turning gay lol cuz that be really mess up all that time wasted for nothin u know?
 
Just ask him straight out, it's not going to hurt your relationship if you tell him what's really bothering you. You're being sincere about it and to me you're just curious to know, so he shouldn't feel any kind of pressure about it.
 
Cool Al thanks hun for the reply... hmmm made me think there, so he should be not affectionate with MY paretns not his... makes sense I guess. Well hes FINE in public or when we're alone, just at his parents' house he's he's acting like a teenager.

G I JOE EMR, thank u.. I'll talk to soon as soon as today maybe.. just need to, u know, make it seem smooth not just lay it out cos he'll freak and overreact.

tank, hmmm he's fine when they're not there LOL... so I dont think so.. plus he's latin, they're pretty affectionate 😛

sietz, thats funny! lol... i dont want him to hump me or any of that lol.. just show some freaken acknoledgement that im ur gf.. for over 5yrs! ahhhhh :lol

thanks a bunch guys
 
If Its Really Bothering You Ask Him. There Is No Need To Wonder Why When He Can Explain It To You. He Might Not Realize He Is Doing That Mama.
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hmm u think?... maybe ur right... yeah i just need to talk to him.. but his family is such a touchy topic that we usually dont even bring it up.. but now i gotta :sosad lol

thanks LMG 🙂
 
Sweetie, I Know About Touchy Subject(family) And You Have To Get Them Out Of The Way. You Say You Have Been With Him For A While And You Seem To Care Alot For Him, Dont Let This Become An Issue. Just Bring It Up Casually And Dont Make It Sound Like He Is Doing Something Wrong.
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ok thanks... i'll try making it easier for both of us lol... thank u ma, hehe u made it sound so easy 😛
 
Chica,
What race or nationality is your guy? In some culture, it is respectful to show to the parent that you have self control. In my culture, we are to show respect to the parent and yes they don't if you love one another. It no disrespect, it just the way the culture work. If you have a problem with him, just ask him about it and maybe he can shine some light to the situation. Hope I can help.
CivicTR
 
Your welcome!!, that what friends are here for. Hope you and your guy work out your problem(s). Next time, don't hesitate to ask if any situation would arise. :typing
 
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