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Hey all...

I have a question to pose for you.. Just because I am actually having a hard time dealing with it, within myself... Put yourself in my shoes, and tell me how you would handle this... if for nothing else, just to satisfy your own sanity...

First off, your a guy (may be hard for some of you to imagine, but please try, I really need help here) there is a friend who is also a guy who you have known maybe 5 or 6 months... Your gettin along, hangin out with him, when one day out of nowhere you see his wife drooling.. okay okay.. I wont be politically correct here, lets use the correct terminology, making out with another man. Now this other man, who you also know, but not well, is sleeping with another woman, basically your typical "player" type. So, it comes down to this... Do you tell your friend about (oh one more thing - heres the kicker) do you tell him about his wife, or pretend not to notice, or what? I have been in this situation before, but then it was a good friend of mine and they werent married. Then I would just say something, and be upfront and honest about it. So, obviously this time its different. I know they are having trouble in their marriage, he is not fooling around (or so it seems) obviously she is.. I am noone to judge, but what do I do??
Just wondering what the general consensus is here... Thanks...
 
I wouldn't say "NADA". For real. Why put yourself in problems? Let him find out for himself. She'll either get busted or tell him that she feels it's best they break up.
 
Thats hard to say because you've only been friends for a little while. But if he's a friend and you think he is gonna be for a while maybe you should tell him, cuz just think if it was the other way around and he did'nt tell you. How would that make you feel?
 
Dang. Thats a real Tuffy. i agree with the others as far as keeping your mouth shut but at the same time.............We Put ourselves in your shoues like you asked , Now you put your self in your freinds shoues. What Would You want? Your new 5 Mo. Pal to tell you? So you can hurry up and move on? Or your New 5 mo. Pal to know ALL but not say a damn thing to you, Cuz its kind of a :shush Thing. Honestly do what your heart wants to do. Because it is a tuff one. Good luck 🙂
 
All great advice everyone.. Thanks... I agree with both sides of this discussion.. If I were him I would want to know.. but I dont want to step into a burning pot either... Time might just tell me what I will end up doing... Maybe she will get caught and that will be the end of it... to say the least... Thanks guys... Thanks everyone...
 
hmm depends how close you are with him. maybe play the song I DONT WANNA KNOW , then get his opinion on the song. if he says, if he was that guy he wants to know then spill it, if not then zip your lip.:dj
 
If you are close enuff to him and he trusts in you, then maybe I would say something. If you are just like getting 2 know each other and dont really have that "confident-male bonding" friendship, then I'd have to keep my mouth shut or maybe have a "what if" convo w/ him and see where dat goes. Good luck..
 
I didnt have to spill the beans after all... Uhm... he kinda found out on his own. I dont know how (we werent all THAT close) - all I know is that I heard the argument that ensued, and it wasnt pretty. It was actually pretty sad. Shouldnt people just talk about these things quietly, within their OWN house....??
They live next door to me, and I know he came home early one day and we were chit chatting outside (seems to me that if his wife and lover were inside, he certainly had ENUF time to get OUT), and I walked into his house with him, and needless to say I very quickly left after that... You know I only thought stuff like that happened in movies... where you actually walk in on your signifigant other and their.. ugm.. lover.. Guess not.. That was two days ago.. I havent seen or heard from either him or her since then... 🙁
 
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