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Ok you're dating a great guy.... its been ummm 3-4 months.... and you're really digging him. You try to hold back any emotions and try to make it seem casual but you feel you're emotions get in the way.... so slowly you fall for him..... then BANG he announces he is moving .... that he got this really AWESOME job offer.... so do you follow him?? It might be too soon to tell if you two would work but WHAT IF?? You already made up your mind NO LONG DISTANCE relationships.... so do you break it off just like that??

And when you do break it off.... Are you angry with him for choosing his career over you.... are you hurt??
 
Hmm I say if its meant hte distance dont matter and since its early on in the start of a relationship dont maek the move till you know for certain it is worth it or you will end up regrettnig oving for teh saek of trying to be with this man unless of course he is providing the living quarters as well lol. When its meant it is meant and you kow how that age old saying goes distance makes the heart grwo fonder 🙂
 
Sexyangel329 said:
Hmm I say if its meant hte distance dont matter and since its early on in the start of a relationship dont maek the move till you know for certain it is worth it or you will end up regrettnig oving for teh saek of trying to be with this man unless of course he is providing the living quarters as well lol. When its meant it is meant and you kow how that age old saying goes distance makes the heart grwo fonder 🙂
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Yea I definitely agree with the not moving and following a guy to the ends of the world..lolol..... but I don't think he should be blamed for wanting something more than what he has in life.... going for this job is a great opportunity for him but I can understand why it would hurt. Feeling like you've been tossed aside for a career can be painful.... but hating him for making that decision ....:nono besides it would be a lot easier now than 6months later..... ya know











btw.... it isn't about me...lololol
 
I wouldn't follow him...to me he is not as much into the relationship...first of all if it was the other way around would he follow you? Probably not...You can not set yourself up to get hurt when it's obvious that he is not making the relationship a priority...his career is...imagine following this guy and it doesn't work out...it would hurt even more than leaving him now...there is toooo much potential for resentment here...I would say just let it be...don't hate him for choosing his career...encourage him...think of yourself and your needs first...just like he is doing
 
yburgos7 said:
I wouldn't follow him...to me he is not as much into the relationship...first of all if it was the other way around would he follow you? Probably not...You can not set yourself up to get hurt when it's obvious that he is not making the relationship a priority...his career is...imagine following this guy and it doesn't work out...it would hurt even more than leaving him now...there is toooo much potential for resentment here...I would say just let it be...don't hate him for choosing his career...encourage him...think of yourself and your needs first...just like he is doing
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Very good advice.... I will sure pass it on .... But I agree he definitely making his career a priority but is that sooo wrong?? I mean its not like they were serious yet?? or were they hmmmm....
 
To me I wouldn't hate him for putting his career first...especially if the relationship is not serious...I would do the same thing he is doing if the opportunity presented itself...it's kinda selfish to hate him for that...

And what if the relationship is serious...he is trying to do something good for himself that will eventually benefit him and you if the relationship continues....
 
yburgos7 said:
To me I wouldn't hate him for putting his career first...especially if the relationship is not serious...I would do the same thing he is doing if the opportunity presented itself...it's kinda selfish to hate him for that...

And what if the relationship is serious...he is trying to do something good for himself that will eventually benefit him and you if the relationship continues....
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I know I don't think he should be blamed either..... but at the same time I can understand why she is hurt..... to her this is impulsive.... she can't grasp why he would just get up and move so suddenly.... he just bought a house here (2months ago). Guess she thought he was gonna be stable and stick around and BANG he wants to leave.... even after he told her he cared for her.
 
I'd try the long distance thing and at the same time research if how possible the move would be- jobs, residences, etc. Take some mini-vacations to see if it's a place that I would wanna live. If the relationship is still going strong, then it may be worth the move.
 
that's a rough situation. Long distance may be the way to go, and if things get "intense" or "closer", then there is a better idea bout them getting together.
 
awwww.....it's too early in that relationship to even THINK of holding resentments over a career choice if anything it's quite selfish. If if was meant to be they would work it out. Sometimes change even through a career can test a relationship and things end up even better than when they started. (ya never know)
 
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH PUTTING A CAREER FIRST,AS LONG IT IS BROUGHT UP IN THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP,THAT THERE IS A CHANCE OF RELOCATION.THAT WAY THERE IS AN UNDERSTANDING.STABILITY IN A JOB IS VERY IMPORTANT.
Heavenly said:
Very good advice.... I will sure pass it on .... But I agree he definitely making his career a priority but is that sooo wrong?? I mean its not like they were serious yet?? or were they hmmmm....
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hey, if he goes and gets this great job, like he says, and in the long run he is meant for you he will come and get you! take it day by day! if you are meant for each other fate or destiny will reunite you.
 
As hard as it may be, I would leave it alone. 3-4 months is toooooo soon to make any life changes. He got a job offer and took it. So therefore, since he's leaving, you go on with your life. Be his friend, if he keeps in touch with you. That's all you can do.
 
LaBettyBoop said:
As hard as it may be, I would leave it alone. 3-4 months is toooooo soon to make any life changes. He got a job offer and took it. So therefore, since he's leaving, you go on with your life. Be his friend, if he keeps in touch with you. That's all you can do.
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LOL Great Advice! But ummm guys its not ME!!!!
 
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