if you love some1 do you have to let them go if...

[Mandy]

Help!!! I love my man sooooo much!! Hes absolutely everything to me. We are so deeply in love. We went through alot and we're still together n we got past some of the rocky parts. I helped him feel love for the first time and he has helped me be totally open for the first time.
His family doest accept me because hes a different religion than me....and he found out his family is movin to FLORIDA soon like 6 months n they of course want him to come :0( It would break my heart n tear up my soul to see him go....but if i truly love him to i have to let him go with his family because in the long run it would be more beneficial i feel for his life than just lil ol me. Hed have his fam, more job opportunities, nice weather, hot girls, maybe hed find a girl of his religion (he doesnt want that he doesnt practice his religion anyways)....I dont know im really torn Hes 20 im 22.

Is it best for me to let him go so then he has to move to florida n be with his family. I dont want to "take him" from his fam. Or because i love him soooo much is love enough to make everything alright? If me n him had kids i wouldnt want them to go to florida because i dont fly & i never met his parents or his fam really its been a year....i met his bro two days ago. the religion thing is hard. He has a sister whos only 7...and two younger brothers. Id feel guilty to have him stay here just for me. What should i do? he wont leave he says cuz he wants to be with me....but is that the best choice for him in the long run....? i dont want to let him go :0(

 

[freestylevet]

Mandy..🙁

Honey, I'm so sorry to hear this. As for the hot girls in Miami -It's no big deal. The job opportunity I think is really any where. It all depends on several things. Connections and your skills.

Now religion. hmm..thats a strong issue. However,you said he doesnt practice it. I guess because of his age, his family feels he is tied to them still.

I believe that if it's mean to be, then it will be. If it's meant for him to move to Florida, then it is. If it's meant for you and him to unite again, then its meant to be.

Just enjoy the next 6 mos. Pretend he's going on a mission and you cant change the decision. I may not be giving you the best advise. But I know prayers will do wonders.

Good luck and keep your hopes high.

VET

 

[Heavenly]

Been there and done that

Well here's my story.....

When I lived in NY I met someone....dated him for 8years....he was jewish and I wasn't. His parents HATED me and made sure I knew it. His family was moving to Florida and he wanted to go for the same reasons.....be with his family and job opportunities. I loved him sooo much I moved to Florida (which is why I am here) with him. Leaving everything I knew behind and a career in performing arts....all for the name of love.

We never got married.....lived together for 6 years even built a home together. We are no longer together I still live in Florida, but in a different city. Its weird that was such a different life....I was not even 19 when I moved in with him....I was soo young. I thought he was my world and we had dreams....ok sorry the point that I am trying to make is that Live YOUR life to its fullest. If you two are REALLY meant to be than there will be a way for you two to be together. Just let time take its course. Did I help any??? I probably didn't but I tried

 

[tarp]

Mandy
I'm sorry to hear about this decision you are faced with, but it seems like it should be his decision more than yours. You should tell him that you love him and will be fine with whatever he chooses to do. Wouldn't you feel bad if you kept him from his family, and then the relationship didnt work out?

just my 2 cents.

 

[Enigma]

Both of you's should give this concrete thought. Takes 2 to make it a right.

Religion? The laws of religion for some congregations are downright absurd. If they don't accept you for your individuality but put focus on your religion, than they are pathetic. You don't base a person on how strong or weak they appreciate God. You also don't determine if you're religious; if that person is a bad influence or not on others. ONLY God knows this. So his family should be more considerate and understanding, ANYWAYS...

i feel for his life than just lil ol me. Hed have his fam, more job opportunities, nice weather, hot girls, maybe hed find a girl of his religion (he doesnt want that he doesnt practice his religion anyways)....I dont know im really torn Hes 20 im 22.

Look at you. Look at the way you speak. You have a great heart sweety for feeling this way. lol You love this man. And Im sure he loves you even more. 🙂 Keep us posted on what decision you guys have made and how things went.


~Antonio Martinez