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I made a mistake in telling my babby's daddy that I had talked to my ex-boyfriend only one time. I thought that we were cool about the situation and how I was not planning on leaving him for anyone else. Well it turns out that now he does not trust me and to top it off he turned our cell phones off today. I told him that nothing happened with my ex and that it was just an innocent conversation. Man this has been going on for two weeks and the truth is I am getting tired of him telling me stuff and throwing it in my face. I told him if he did not trust me then why is he with me and he said because I am hoping things will change. And I still talk to my ex but we are just friends I think. I am soo confused still.
 
Not for nothing Marilisa...I've been reading what you're goin thru. And here's my advice to you...

LOSE THE CONVO's with the ex...it's jeopardizing your current relationship.

Is it really worth it? I think not. You already have your man not trusting you...if you don't let the ex be...you're gonna find yourself alone and I don't think you really want that.
 
heres something every man wants too hear about the X files.. to show how confident and understanding he is... NOT!!! ive dated some girls that for some reason felt the x factor was a good coversation piece!! let me be really real.. if someone has had you naked and moaning in the wee hours of the morning dont care how long ago it was.. we probably would only be glad to read about him in the morning paper being in a bad accident !! friends or no friends dont care if you were just talking about the weather .. thats real!!!!
 
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what taz said make a lot of sense if ur babys daddy feel that strong and give him that respect as if u would like given to u. some of that confuse is that most of the time the other person who has no attachment to u would like to have an affair and not worry about the responsiblity. am going to be blunt there is a saying " why buy the cow when you get the milk for free" the bottom line is be careful u might loss something that latter u might regret.
 
My opinion is if you dont like him then dont be with him. That's it. Plain and simple. There's no need to give your man false hopes. Another thing, he has a reason why he doesnt trust you. So don't act like he's all up on you and it's his fault, because it isn't. That's ignorance. I think your playing with fire and my best advice for you would be for you to make a plan. Plan things out. Ask yourself WHAT it is you really WANT. Measure your options out....."what would be right? vs. what would be wrong?" Do things right. Then proceed with that.

Just whatever you do be honest with yourself and to your man. Dont be ignorant and forget temptation....(that get's anyone into trouble)


......Things should fall into place afterwards (the right way).
 
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i have to agree with what everyone has already said. i 've been reading about your situation since you first told us about it. i think it really is selfish of you to expect your current man to sit back and be ok with you having feelings for your ex and you acting like your man is the one playing dirty. if you dont like your man then leave but dont play with his head. he knows you are not being truthful and he took actions to prevent you from communicating with your ex. you yourself said you are too much of a women for your ex so leave him alone . you say he is moving so you need to move on and into the present(reality).
 
*ahem*

WE TOLD U SO- BUT DID U LISTEN?
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

so not to sound mean (too late?) U didn't heed the advice from fellow CF'ers- U made you bed, now lay in it!You got all caught up in emotion.....so.....TOMA!
 
OMG... trying not to sound all annoyed, but come on....

Is it me or does Marilisa sound like "she's the innocent one in this situation?" As Taezee put it (well put at that)... if you were in bed with someone... the "just friends" now excuse does not apply!

I'm sorry to tell you, your man has every right to not trust you. The only reason nothing happened between you and your ex is because he apparently disappointed you when you were with him (which, your current man doesn't know about). If your ex was everything you "thought" he was, you would have done the "nastys" with him already. (if you haven't already, but just not saying).

Excuse me, I'm not the type to sugar coat anything, especially when it comes to someone cheating (or just thinking about it)... so forgive me if this came across to harse.

Drop your Ex. Your current man seems to be mature enough to try and make your relationship work.

Focus on your present, NOT YOUR PAST!!!

Good Luck
Gina
 
:read this is good
i think you should listen to what these peeps are saying it makes sense you dont want to ruin your relationship with your current man give up the x think of it this way if things were different then you and the x would still be together but your not so you should just leave the past where it belongs in the past
 
Liz_Torres said:
*ahem*

WE TOLD U SO- BUT DID U LISTEN?
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

so not to sound mean (too late?) U didn't heed the advice from fellow CF'ers- U made you bed, now lay in it!You got all caught up in emotion.....so.....TOMA!
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i agree ! u put ur self in this dumb situation...1 u had said dat u didnt love your baby daddy w/e but shit if i was him i would feel the same way did you tell him that u went to your ex apartment??? come on girl i bet if your man did that it would be the end of the world for him i dont blame him for the way he has been acting towards you... How is he gonna trust you u did something behind his back n in the beginning i think you want it more from this ex of your till u realized ahh dat he turned u off or w/e dont blame ur man for the way he has been acting..n if ur gettin tired of him then brake up u said u didnt love him anyways..!
 
your man doesnt trust u for good reason..Just give up the ex and concentrate on your relationship with your man...If u dont want to be with him then just let him go..
 
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