I Found My Ideal Match.........

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...........but she's married.

I was willing to over-look that (I normally don't) just because she looked honest to me and I could tell you that I would've gotten along fine with her. She was perfect. We both liked each other alot but I brought in the reality check and the reality was that she's with someone else. She immediately realized what she was doing and so she made me feel as if she didn't want me in that sense (lovey dovey wise) anymore so then I told her that I can't even be her friend because that would mean throwing more wood into the fire and to be honest......I can't help what I feel for her so I rather just stay away before the feelings get stronger. 🙁

Gosh, i'm tired of this. There's always an exception. This time, I felt that she WAS actually the one for me. My heart told me so. That she actually belonged to me. Now I would just have to wonder of what could've been between us both. I don't fall easily for girls. I talk to alot of them and we are only good friends. I've prevented further interaction. But it seems like this particular one got to me. And I know I got to her too

I feel down. Really down.
 
Don't feel down. sometimes things like this happens. It's messed up because both parties come out hurt. We can't always control our hearts and we can't help who we fall for. You were right to cut off all ties to her because even as friends you would have fell into temptation all over again. Because your feeling for her would have gotten in the way you would have fell into the same pattern. Its not fair to you that you have to share her with someone else. you should never sell yourself short. One day you will be able to find that someone.
 
Lamatrix said:
You were right to cut off all ties to her because even as friends you would have fell into temptation all over again. Because your feeling for her would have gotten in the way you would have fell into the same pattern.
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Thank you. I needed to hear that.

You're right. I can't help but to feel for her. Even if I tried not to, I still do. So I feel I did something right. I don't think I sold myself short. I know her to say that this person is very honest and has alot of love to give. This one makes me feel like singing a song. She makes my heart beat. Makes me feel so alive. I can't believe a girl like this exists. ......So this is why i'm down.
 
No you didn't sell yourself short. Had you kept the relationship going in the long run thats what it would have been. Only because she would not be able to be yours 100%. I know this guy in the same relationship a coworker of mine and everytime he talked about her you could see he was trying to be strong but inside it tore him up to have to deal with the fact that she belonged to another man not because he owned her but simply the word marriage made it that way. It's not fair to either one of you. It reminds me of two songs that say the same thing as a matter of fact secret lovers is one of the songs and the other one is a spanish one. I hope that your heart can mend. I can't imagine what it's like to love someone that you can not have because of certain circumstances. If it's meant to be then it will. If not hopefully for the short time you and her were together it can be cherished and used as a learning experience.
It shows us that love can happen in any way shape or form and we as humans have that gift to love even those we can not have.
 
You are so right. As good as she may seem, this can really hurt more later than now. I just could've sworn that she was it. That she was the one. Make me wonder.......should I trust what I feel next time??? Cuz really......I trusted it and it fooled me really good.


Lamatrix said:
If not hopefully for the short time you and her were together it can be cherished and used as a learning experience.
It shows us that love can happen in any way shape or form and we as humans have that gift to love even those we can not have.
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She left me this message before we said our goodbyes......

"life can pass you by, in an instant to life we say goodbye, in an instant a friend is made, in an instant a friend is lost, in an instant so much could happen, don't take life for granted, for some things only last an instant."
 
i know how it is to want something you know you should not want, and for some reason does not belong to to, we all have gone through it.
but life goes on , your just left with memorise
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this is a part of a somg that when i think back to the one i couldn't be wit
i just have 2 listen to t cuz it makes me feel a lil better
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Late at night I close my eyes
And think of how things could have been
And when I look back
I remember some words you had said to me

It’s better to have lost at loveThen never to have loved at all

I won’t forget you baby
Even though I should
I won’t forget you baby
Even though I should, yeah
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We all make choices and sometimes it the wrong one. But never compromise yourself just to beloved by someone else. Seeing someone married or having an affair never works out. Never!! Just be glad your heartbroken and you didn't have any kids with her. You should ask yourself why would you want someone married anyways. Is it a challenge, turn on, what?
 
tanktruck said:
We all make choices and sometimes it the wrong one. But never compromise yourself just to beloved by someone else. Seeing someone married or having an affair never works out. Never!! Just be glad your heartbroken and you didn't have any kids with her. You should ask yourself why would you want someone married anyways. Is it a challenge, turn on, what?
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I don't know what guys you've been around Tank but I will tell you that when I seriously get interested in someone, I know it's for a damn good reason. I've been up and down. Studied lots of girls. But this one is very special. And this is the one that I would gladly give my life for. I guess that should answer the question that you wanted to get me to ask myself.

I happen to know for a fact that she is honest. Someone very creative, passionate, open-minded, sensitive.........that's exactly what I was looking for. And I know that I could've been the right man for her because I know what she needs. She just happened to be married.
 
Mysterious Darkness said:
I don't know what guys you've been around Tank but I tell you that when I get involved with someone I know it's for a damn good reason.

I happen to know for a fact that she is honest. Someone very creative, passionate, open-minded, sensitive.........that's exactly what I was looking for. And I know that I could've been the right man for her because I know what she needs. She just happened to be married.
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Opps My bad!! I was under the assumption that being Married ment being with you husband!! I guess I just didn't read the fine print on that. LOL If you are what she needs then she needs to make the choice to leave her husband for you. What makes you different that her husband that if she ever gets with you that she won't do the same to you. Trust me it always happens. There is a thing in this Universe called Cosmic justice. You know what you goes around comes around. I wish you the best with her but i bet in the long haul if you were to get with her it wouldn't be for long and you would have drama. Just a my opinion I don't know this lady so I'm not judging you or her. But you should ask yourself IF SHE WAS HONEST WHY WOULDN'T SHE BE HONEST WITH THE HUSBAND AND TELL HIM SHE FOUND YOU. Ponder that for awhile.
 
This is why I have to get to know her.

Ever heard of love at first sight?? Ever observed someone that you immediately knew what he or she was all about?? Well it happened to me and because of that, I believe in love. Maybe her man wasn't giving her much attention. Maybe she has negative situations with her man. You always have to give it the benefit of the doubt or else your just never going to know.

Now using my brain: If we would've continued, I would want to know where I stood in her life and what I mean to her before making any choices. But I felt that I knew inside of me how this girl was.
 
crazygirl said:
when u met her u knew she was married?
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I knew but we didn't question anything. These feelings just happened. It was born. No one pushed it. That's what real love is in my opinion.
 
Mysterious Darkness said:
I knew but we didn't question anything. These feelings just happened. It was born. No one pushed it. That's what real love is in my opinion.
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Love at first sight never. Only in the movie and in songs. When you met someone at first we're totally different. We try to be nice, kind , sweet etc etc. You know cause you trying to inpress the other person. Maybe it was lust or maybe an opportunity to use to get out of a bad situarion. Whatever the deal just remember that things just don't happen we make them happen. Our choices and our actions put the cards in motion for a heartache or happiness. What choice are you gonna make!?
 
Lust??? Bad situation???

LOL.....love makes the world go round. People aren't perfect because they try to be perfect. But if we would do things out of love instead of doing them because it "feels" right to do so then this world would be a better place for all of us don't you think???
 
Mysterious Darkness said:
Lust??? Bad situation???

LOL.....love makes the world go round. People aren't perfect because they try to be perfect. But if we would do things out of love instead of doing them because it "feels" right to do so then this world would be a better place for all of us don't you think???
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Nope love doesn't make the world go around the gravity from the sun does. Maybe you should ask yourself why does it feel right. You know where you heading to another heartache. If love made the world go around we wouldn't have war, death, famine, rape, murder, burglaries etc etc. But that's a whole other bucket of chicken. Nothin wrong with fallen in love but with a single woman or man. I'm not down with OPP you know me!! LOl
 
tanktruck said:
Nope love doesn't make the world go around the gravity from the sun does. Maybe you should ask yourself why does it feel right. You know where you heading to another heartache. If love made the world go around we wouldn't have war, death, famine, rape, murder, burglaries etc etc. But that's a whole other bucket of chicken. Nothin wrong with fallen in love but with a single woman or man. I'm not down with OPP you know me!! LOl
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You can't help who you love.
 
Darkness, I know you are feeling down. I'm sorry about that.

Please remember that you did the right thing by stopping it now. You would not have found happiness with her.

having a relationship with her would've meant sneaking around, hidden conversations, and being alone on holidays because she would be with her husband/family.

Everyone deserves to be loved out in the open, not someone's dirty little secret that no one knows about.

It's hard now, but in the long run, you did the right thing.
 
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