First few dates, first everthing.

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Doesn't it suck, that in the beginning of a relationship..everything is so good. The guy using super caution words is trying to win her heart...being so sweet with her...vice versa...her too being cautious, just wanting this new love to work?

Doesnt' it suck...that later on...as the months good bye...things are toned down...the googy eyes, the super beginning respect...is toned down...and now you are still lovers of course, but...just the norm.

You see, I hate that! Why can't it end from beginning to end in a lifetime? Like you are so out of this world in the beginning, so why can the FIN to that movie end like that?!?

Movie? Yeah, our lives/life story 🙂
 
DAMN ENIGMA THAT'S TRUE! AT THE BEGINING ITS ALL GOOD, BUT, THEN ITS LIKE AN OLD PAIR OF SHOES YOU JUST SETTLE IN, YOU WEAR THEM BECAUSE THEIR COMFORTABLE BUT, THEIR NOT AS COOL AND NEW AS THEY USED TO BE 🙁 IT'S LIKE CHRIS ROCK SAID, AT THE BEGINING YOU MEET AND INTRODUCE YOUR REPRESENTATIVE NOT THE REAL DEAL, THEN PEOPLE'S TRUE COLORS START TO SHOW, OR MAYBE THEY GET TO COMFORTABLE THAT THEY JUST DON'T CARE ABOUT THE SPARK, AS A WOMEN I TEND TO LOOK FOR THAT SPARK, AND ONCE ITS LOST, I LOSE INTEREST AS WELL. I FIGURE WHY CHANGE IT IF THE OTHER PERSON DOESNT NOTICE
 
In this world, you got your individuals who conquer a certain activity/sport/genre or whatever, you got Michael Jordan, dominated basketball, you got Michael Jackson, dominated Pop Music, you got your individuals who can't be beat on that one thing they do best no one can do. So why can there be inviduals with that type of talent for love? That type of talent to know there will never ever be a fight, and everything stays beautiful?

And for those who can't do it, what about some will power?

I mean I stopped biting my nails since 5 years ago, and now when I think about it, it was disgusting, so anything you put mind and soul into, works. 😀

Oh and P.S: My exwife was the first to argue, curse and lay a hand on me!!!
 
I agree Enigma n Destiny11...why does that happen?? Why cant the "honeymoon stage" last forever??

I think i saw a show about love on the discovery channel or the learning channel once....and when some1 is first in love endorphins like really strong good feeling chemicals keep gettin released in ur brain but eventually as time goes by the body produces less of those chemicals....and thats when u reach the "comfortable" phase.

But whats wrong with comfortable phase....its still love right? And it can still be passionate....but ur body doesnt react the exact same way with ur heart racin n ur breath bein taken away.....but if u love some1 ur heart should always feel the same excited passionate lovin and like everyday is a new day and cherishing every moment and not takin for granted the love u have.

And thats one thing i hope to accomplish in my life enigma havin the talent to have an everlastin beautiful love that keeps that spark.
 
I AGREE W/ YOU ENIGMA AND DESTINY

THAT IT DOES START LIKE THAT ITS LIKE A JOB OYU DRESS UP FOR ANINTERVIEW THEN AFTER YOUR HIRED YOUR DRESSING OTHER WAYS
ANYWAYS IT HAPPEDN SOMETIMES ITS NORMAL I THINK THAT IT STARTS GOOD WITH ALOT OF ACTION AND THEN IT FALLS OUT TO BEING THE SAME ROUTINE ANYWAYS SOMETIMES WE GOTTA FIND NEW WAYS OF SPARKING THE FLAMES AGAIN IT GOD TO HAVE SOME SURPRISES W/ EACH OTHER THERES NO PERFECT RELATIONSHIP OUT THERE A RELATIONSHIP IS ALWAYS A CHALLENGE FOR BOTH PPL AND GOTTA GET AT IT
 
FROM EXPERIENCE I HAVE TO SAY THAT, ONCE IT BECOMES LIKE A TASK OR A ROUTINE AND YOUR NOT FEELING THE PASSION, THATS A BIG DISSAPOINTMENT, WHEN THE LITTLE ARGUMENTS SEEM TO OVER SHADOW THE DAILY ROUTINE IT SUCKS. COMMUNICATION AND COMPROMISE IS THE KEY, OR SO THEY SAY. BUT IF THE SPARK IS GONE AND THEIRS NO ELECTRICITY, AND IF ON TOP OF THAT YOU HAVE EXCESS ARGUMENTS OVER BS THEN YOU GET TO THE POINT WHERE YOU HIT ROCK BOTTOM AND YOU EITHER STAY OR FLOAT BACK UP! IN MY CASE I FLOATED BACK UP, BUT, I DID IT FOR ME. AND NOW AFTER 5YRS OF ROCK BOTTOM, WHEN I DO RUN INTO THE PERFECT MAN, I'M GOING TO KEEP HIM BUT, I'LL MAKE SURE HE WASN'T LIKE THE PAST EXPERIENCE.🙂
 
COMMUNICATION AND COMPROMISE IS THE KEY--
EXACTLY DESTINY THOSE ARE THE KEYS
 
PEOPLE: WHAT YOU GO THROUGH IN THE BEGINNING IS THE INFATUATION STAGE (not to be confused w/love) YOU ARE IN THIS STAGE FOR AS LONG AS U BOTH PRETEND TO BE SOMETHING THAT U ARE NOT. AND DISCOVERING ALL ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON IS WHAT MAKES IT INTERESTING. (from experience)

IF AND WHEN YOU ARE WITH SOMEONE FOR MULTIPLE OF YEARS AND CAN ACCEPT THAT PERSON WITH CHARACTER DEFECTS AND ALL FOR WHO HE OR SHE IS, THAN U CAN SAY THAT U LOVE THAT PERSON...AND NOT WHAT OR WHO U THINK THAT PERSON IS OR SHOULD BE.

AS FOR THE EXCITEMENT AND SPARKS...THAT'S COMPLETELY UP TO YOU..NOTHING IS EVER ROUTINE..THERE'S IS ALWAYS SOMETHING NEW TO TRY...

SO TAKE YOUR TIME AND BE TRUE FROM THE START COMMUNICATE IN ALL ASPECTS OF THE WORD.


6yrs and still going
 
HHHHOOOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLAAAAAAAAAAA

EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN PERCEPTIONS ABOUT LOVE, SOME PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE WITH THE IDEA OF BEING IN LOVE BEFORE THEY EVER LEARN TO EXPERIENCE IT. I HEAR YOU NINODODAT
 
i feel you destiny...not everyone understands the concept at all.
only the strong ones will survive.
 
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