Can you love someone and still cheat??????

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What do you guyz say??????? Could you ever do it???? What do you think cause people to cheat??? Is it something that is learned or in the genes that certain people can't help it, or is that just an excuse???
 
I'm sorry but I believe that a cheater can NOT ever truly love someone. the only person they love is themselves. I think what drives one to cheat is the fact that their relationship is lacking something in itself. I just dont' get it. if ur not happy why not get out and just go w/ wtvr the hell is out there. no reason to make ur partner suffer for ur injustices!! **shakes head** I just dont' get it
 
Just a theory, but I think what happens many times is, though a cheater may seem full of themselves, their opinion of themsef is actually lacking on some level and they try to compensate for that by having more than one person.Which all comes back to themselves. If they can't love themself how are they gonna love someone else.....


OK what about a one-night stand while drunk?? Or while physically separated for a long period of time???
 
:ideaI think you can love someone and cheat. But keep in mind that loving someone and BEING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE can mean two different things. So, while I believe you can love and cheat, I don't really think you would be able to cheat if you were IN LOVE. :inlove
 
you go councelor, very well put .
nessa's302 said:
I'm sorry but I believe that a cheater can NOT ever truly love someone. the only person they love is themselves. I think what drives one to cheat is the fact that their relationship is lacking something in itself. I just dont' get it. if ur not happy why not get out and just go w/ wtvr the hell is out there. no reason to make ur partner suffer for ur injustices!! **shakes head** I just dont' get it
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Dianita said:
Just a theory, but I think what happens many times is, though a cheater may seem full of themselves, their opinion of themsef is actually lacking on some level and they try to compensate for that by having more than one person.Which all comes back to themselves. If they can't love themself how are they gonna love someone else.....


OK what about a one-night stand while drunk?? Or while physically separated for a long period of time???
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I agree wtih you mama...I think that even though your man or woman may love you & be happy with you something deep inside them has that need to know they still got it & can get whoever they want. I'm not gonna lie I have cheated while I was with my man but during that time we were having problems & I already know that's not a valid reason to cheat but it happened & I did regret it in the end.
 
OK for example, i know quite a few guys that have left girlfriends or even wives back in their country, but are now here in a relationship with someone else. Is there a difference because they have been apart from the significant other for a long time??? Would it even be cheating?? Is it possible to love both people at the same time???
 
Temptation is a part of life.... but that doesn't mean you should act on it
 
BXCookie said:
:ideaI think you can love someone and cheat. But keep in mind that loving someone and BEING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE can mean two different things. So, while I believe you can love and cheat, I don't really think you would be able to cheat if you were IN LOVE. :inlove
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I agree 100%.......
 
Cause when you're in love that person is the only person on your mind...I think what happens too is that when we love someone we might take advantage of that love and take that person for granted.
 
Dianita said:
What do you guyz say??????? Could you ever do it???? What do you think cause people to cheat??? Is it something that is learned or in the genes that certain people can't help it, or is that just an excuse???
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The answer is simply NO LOL. How you just gonna cheat and still love the person you cheat on?? That is lame, come on. If you cheat on the person you are supposed to love, then you in fact don't love and RESPECT them enough to not even think of cheating on them.

I would not cheat because (a) it is wrong (b) there are nasty-ass diseases out there and (c) I would be seen as unfaithful.

Cheating is something learned by people who don't have any self-control when it comes to "hittin' that". It is not in the genes LOL. Cheating is the same as acting stupid and not thinking as far as the brain is concerned.
 
I agreeONE HUndred PERCENT100%

BXCookie said:
:ideaI think you can love someone and cheat. But keep in mind that loving someone and BEING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE can mean two different things. So, while I believe you can love and cheat, I don't really think you would be able to cheat if you were IN LOVE. :inlove
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I Agree WITH you 100%
 
I Belive That If You Love Someone And Are Truly In Love With Them...Cheating Is Not Even A Option ...If You Get Thoughts On Cheating On Someone To Me That Means You Are Not Ready For Commitment Yet..Cheating Schouldnt Even Cross Your Mind If You Are In Love With Them...You Will Know When You Are ready 🙂
 
rbonuc29 said:
of course you can cheat and still love some one. if i slept with some one else dosnt mean i like the woman im with any less?

duh?
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basicaly you say its okay to 1)betray trust and/or show disrespect to that person that my friend is not love
 
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