Love may make the world go 'round, but it's romantic love that makes the ride worthwhile. We need love, but we crave romance (just like you need broccoli but you crave chocolate!). If you want to make your relationship hot and exciting this Valentine's Day, you need to increase the romance and passion. How do you do that? Practice these ten tips on your Valentine and fall in love all over again!
Keep in mind that your partner may have different ideas about how to make this Valentine's Day special. There's no right or wrong way here -- simply your way and your partner's way. Honor and respect your differences, and I promise that this alone will greatly improve your relationship -- and make this Valentine's Day one to remember.
1. Unplug: Don't spend your "prime time" watching the characters on Ally McBeal flirt and kiss. This Valentine's Day, turn up the heat at home by unplugging your TV. Put a note on the screen for your partner that says, "Turn me on instead."
2. Say Yes to Silk: If you ever doubted it, know this: Men really, really love lingerie. When in doubt, a garter belt and stockings will do the trick. I've also been asked by many men in my romance classes to convey this message to women: Nothing completes a great lingerie outfit like a pair of high heels. If you're uncomfortable in heels or are worried that you'll do damage to your feet, keep in mind that you don't need to be on your feet for more than a minute or two! Want to be sure you wear something your partner really loves? Go lingerie shopping together and sneak him into the dressing room with you! Then, on Valentine's Day, greet him at the door wearing your new ensemble.
3. Be Eloquent: When you sign your Valentine's Day card, don't just sign it "love." Be eloquent; be creative; make sure your personality and your feelings shine through. Even better, make your own Valentine's Day card. Copy your partner's favorite poem or romantic paragraph from a book onto fancy parchment paper. Roll it into a scroll, tie it with a red ribbon and present it to your lover. Or write your own love poem or love letter. A well crafted love letter will have your lover a sighing with satisfaction. Love letters also make treasured keepsakes. For those who feel uncomfortable or even silly when attempting to write a real love letter, use examples to inspire you: Love Letters, edited by Antonia Fraser, is full of passionate, emotional, romantic love letters. Or, if your lover responds better to suggestive passages, don't hold back: Write a note detailing what you want him to do to you in bed or copy down a few lines from your favorite romance novel to get his mind racing!
4. Flirt: When was the last time you actually flirted with your S.O? Go out in public (to dinner, to a party or nightclub) and try it. You'll give your partner a pleasant jolt -- and you'll have fun, too. Think back to those little things you used to do when you were dating and try them out again. You may want to reenact your first date or your first night together. Pretend you're back in high school and sit on his lap and make out. Think like a single person and see what happens.
Keep in mind that your partner may have different ideas about how to make this Valentine's Day special. There's no right or wrong way here -- simply your way and your partner's way. Honor and respect your differences, and I promise that this alone will greatly improve your relationship -- and make this Valentine's Day one to remember.
1. Unplug: Don't spend your "prime time" watching the characters on Ally McBeal flirt and kiss. This Valentine's Day, turn up the heat at home by unplugging your TV. Put a note on the screen for your partner that says, "Turn me on instead."
2. Say Yes to Silk: If you ever doubted it, know this: Men really, really love lingerie. When in doubt, a garter belt and stockings will do the trick. I've also been asked by many men in my romance classes to convey this message to women: Nothing completes a great lingerie outfit like a pair of high heels. If you're uncomfortable in heels or are worried that you'll do damage to your feet, keep in mind that you don't need to be on your feet for more than a minute or two! Want to be sure you wear something your partner really loves? Go lingerie shopping together and sneak him into the dressing room with you! Then, on Valentine's Day, greet him at the door wearing your new ensemble.
3. Be Eloquent: When you sign your Valentine's Day card, don't just sign it "love." Be eloquent; be creative; make sure your personality and your feelings shine through. Even better, make your own Valentine's Day card. Copy your partner's favorite poem or romantic paragraph from a book onto fancy parchment paper. Roll it into a scroll, tie it with a red ribbon and present it to your lover. Or write your own love poem or love letter. A well crafted love letter will have your lover a sighing with satisfaction. Love letters also make treasured keepsakes. For those who feel uncomfortable or even silly when attempting to write a real love letter, use examples to inspire you: Love Letters, edited by Antonia Fraser, is full of passionate, emotional, romantic love letters. Or, if your lover responds better to suggestive passages, don't hold back: Write a note detailing what you want him to do to you in bed or copy down a few lines from your favorite romance novel to get his mind racing!
4. Flirt: When was the last time you actually flirted with your S.O? Go out in public (to dinner, to a party or nightclub) and try it. You'll give your partner a pleasant jolt -- and you'll have fun, too. Think back to those little things you used to do when you were dating and try them out again. You may want to reenact your first date or your first night together. Pretend you're back in high school and sit on his lap and make out. Think like a single person and see what happens.
